Women through the ages have been largely defined by the men in their lives. That includes the kind of father they grew up under, their brothers, boyfriends, husband(s) and sons. Only in the most recent decades of history have women struggled to be independent and to stand on their own merit without being defined by the men surrounding them.
It is interesting, though, that no matter how successful a woman might be in her own right, most of the time she will still have a definite idea about what Mr. Right would be like if she were to meet him. From morals, financial status, to looks, most single women have a general idea of what their perfect guy would be like.
The black and white movies of the 30s, 40s, and 50s portrayed Mr. Right as tall, dark, handsome and dashing. Cary Grant, Jimmy Stewart and John Wayne come to mind as the icons of that era. In later years, Sean Connery, Paul Newman and Ryan O'Neil ruled the big screen. Most recently men like Brad Pitt, Tom Cruise and Johnny Depp take center stage. Time and taste have certainly changed through the years in Hollywood. Women should never let those artificial images overshadow their perception of real men in their lives.
Individual women's taste in men is as varied as the women. The description of Mr. Right will depend entirely on who is giving the description.
Younger women tend to think more about the exterior package. Looks are terribly important to a young woman as well as a chemical/physical attraction. The better looking the guy, the more a young woman tends to feel like they will be happy in a relationship with him. They assume the future will be secure as long as they are in love.
Women in their 30s and 40s usually have a shift in their priorities about their male relationships and potential husbands. Mr. Right becomes more of a man than a boy. They still want good looking men, but they also begin to think about who has a good job and who will make a good father and a good provider. They want a secure future and a man that will be part of that picture.
Women in their 50s and 60s have time and experience on their side. They have known many men in their lives in different capacities - fathers, brothers, sons, friends, pastors, sweethearts and bosses. They have had time to observe men and see important qualities that younger women might overlook. They've had time to get priorities straight.
They have learned that men who are extremely good looking tend to be self absorbed and often give in to temptation when excessive attention is paid to them by females. Men who were great athletes may not have developed good job skills while they were in the sports limelight. The fellows that young women may have considered "geeky" often turn out to be the most career oriented and the most financially successful. Good looks fade. Muscles droop, waistlines thicken, and hair falls out. Mature women learn to look at inner qualities that endure over time.
Women in their 60s and 70s, or even older, still have ideas about Mr. Right. For them, Mr. Right would be in fairly good health, have a home, financial security, a reliable retirement and a desire for companionship and similar interests to pursue together. Mr. Right might be a sweetheart, but he would also need to know how to be a good friend.
Mr. Right retains certain qualities in the minds of every age group. Mr. Right will always be attractive to the woman hoping to meet him, hard working, kind, considerate, compassionate and a good listener. Perhaps most importantly in a woman's mind, Mr. Right will realize what a wonderful woman she is, understand her, see all the unique qualities and dreams in her heart that others have overlooked and know just how lucky he is to have found her and gained her love.
In women's minds, knowing him will make their life better, more rewarding and fuller. They will have someone to be the recipient of their love, someone to give their heart to without reservation, share their dreams and goals with and someone to grow old with.
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